Posted by Tiffany in Family | 5 Comments
Persevere To The End
I’ve been losing momentum lately. It’s all going south and I’m having a hard time stopping the spiral.
Finances are getting lacksidascial – how do we get the drive back? When we’re frustrated with each other we seem to take it out that way. How do we get un-frustrated? How do we all accomplish what we need to personally and professionally and still be a famiily? A time is coming where it will be single parenthood for a few months – I hate those few months. I want to make up for the lost time I know is coming and I’m pushing buttons without meaning to. I want to make up for the time I know is coming where there will be no – or hardly any – “me time” – and I am ending up pushing buttons and creating frustration without realizing it.
I am craving my time – no time to run by myself, if I do have the opportunity I end up with company – no time because of business meetings that sneak up for volleyball, was told last night that I might have company even IF I could go play – no time for me, no time to be me - I HAD to sneak out last night. I NEEDED my girls, if only for an hour and a half. I needed them. I needed the drive with the windows down and the music blaring – I needed the mindless noise blasting around me and the wind in my face in order to clear my head and just think of nothing. It’s a rare treat it is – nothing. I need “nothing” sometimes.
I need there to be daddy/daughter one on one time. I see the light in her eyes when she asks for Daddy and goes running around to look for him. I see the excitement when they get that time and I come home and she tells me all about it. She needs it. There is coming a time where it will be next to impossible to get it.
How do I get it all done and still communicate my feelings in a positive way? I am failing at that and putting a strain on my marriage and in doing so I see that the waves from the one issue affecting things around us: finances, communication, frustration on everything we say, no cuddle time, no hugs, no “good mornings,” no smiles, no exciting things to discuss and share… we’re regressing. I hate that. Nothing more I hate than that right now – and how do I fix it? It takes time, time to be, time to talk, time, and that was the issue that started this all. No time.
I have no answers, but I need some.
I hope you get the time you are looking for to be by yourself. We all need some me time. I have been feeling the same way lately. I was invited to go to a bday party on Friday and was hoping to go by myself but ended up taking the whole family. I haven’t been out with just friends in a couple of years. I think it’s important for us to have these me times to keep our sanity. I know how you feel. I hope you find what you are looking for.
Hoping you find your answers.
there is no such thing as time. Many people live with time running their life. There is clock time which is important in this life but it should not run your life. Check out the great book ” the power of now” by eckart tolle ( i was skeptical at first) it is really good and i have found my self less stressed because of it. It teaches you to be “in the now” and not worry about the past or future.
As for the money part. Yes it is important to live ect. But that should not run your life either. It wont be the end of the world if you don’t get the laundry done. Or that you didn’t save as much as you wanted. Being all up tight, anal, and a miser makes like no fun and eventually your kids will pick up that you are not happy.
Set up “me time” and stick with it. Even if you have to ask your girl friends to come over and watch the kids for an hour.
I told my husband. That i am stressed/ un happy ect and that i needed his help. (w/ chores, fiances ect and i told him exactly what he needed to do.(
and i told him with his help i will be happier, and then, you will be happier and then we will get along better. And it has been great ever since. I told him if he wants me to “walk” my spiritual path and be right along side him then i need his help in other things. And it has been great ever since.
I really feel you. Time is something we all want / need more of. I wish Dave and Kaitlynn spent more father / daughter time together, but he is so busy with work and school. I would also love more me time. I am so burnt out. Dave and I were having some major communication problems and decided to go to counseling. It has been the best thing we have done for our marriage. I would highly recommend it to every married couple. Good luck to you.
Just heard about a great book today called Getting the Love you Want by Harvell Hendricks. I haven’t read it, but plan to. That’s always my answer to most things…grab a book.
Hope it helps.